TIL I was the problem in class debates not the professor

It took a guest speaker calling me out in front of 40 people last spring for me to realize I had been interrupting women and minority students without even noticing for two whole semesters, anyone else have a moment where they were the one stifling speech without realizing it?

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henry_palmer242mo ago

Same thing happened to me in my poli sci class. Brutal wakeup call lol.

emerycarr2mo ago

yeah it's wild how that happens in classes but honestly I've started noticing the exact same pattern in regular life too. like at my job people will talk a big game about teamwork then totally bail when stuff gets hard. or friends who say they're "always there" but vanish the second you need a ride to the airport or help moving. it's like everyone's got this theoretical version of themselves they like to imagine but the real version is way different when push comes to shove. that class probably just taught you what a lot of people never learn until way later in life.

brooke711mo ago

Honestly, this whole "theoretical version of themselves" thing really hits hard. I've seen it too many times where people swear up and down that they have your back, but then the moment you actually need something real, they just disappear. It's like they're more in love with the idea of being a good person than actually putting in the work to be one. That class you mentioned probably just peeled back the curtain early for you, which honestly is kind of a gift in disguise. Better to learn that lesson now than waste years trusting people who can't follow through. Tbh, I'd rather have two real friends than twenty who only show up for the easy stuff.