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My neighbor in Osaka said something about death that made me rethink everything

We were having tea in her tiny apartment last spring, and I mentioned how my family never talks about funerals. She looked at me and said, 'Here, we plan ours. We pick the music and the flowers. It's not sad, it's a final gift.' She showed me a box where she keeps her own choices written down. I always thought avoiding the topic was respectful, but she framed it as an act of care. Has anyone else had a cultural rule about death flipped like that?
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calebw50
calebw506d ago
A final gift" is a way nicer way to think about it than my family's approach of just pretending it won't happen.
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leo_kelly
leo_kelly5d ago
Denial's a great family tradition, right up there with awkward holiday dinners.
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